Motivational For Me, For Us : Adapted from The Charged Life By Brendon

Chapter One.

HOW TO BE MORE HAPPY

Ok. This is Brendon Burhard. Not my boyfriend hah. :-)

I’m always amazed by all these people who say that they’re unhappy in their lives, and they act as if happiness is this big mysterious force that is difficult to figure out.

Happiness is one of the most studied areas of human endeavor in the history of the world. When you look at psychology and philosophy, this is all they’ve been talking about for literally centuries.

So we figured out the basics of happiness, but it’s just that sometimes common sense isn’t common practice, so people struggle for no reason.

Look at what we know about happiness.

We know happiness comes from an orientation towards the world in which we look at the past, the present, and the future in specific ways.

We often tend to look at the past with gratitude and fond recollection, even if there were struggles, challenges, suffering, and turmoil.

We find our places in the past, and we feel a sense of acceptance about the past. It happened. It’s good.

All things were as they were and today they are as they shall be.

It’s being okay with whatever the past is — finding a peace, acceptance and gratitude there allows us to be a little freer in the present.

And being in the present makes us happy. Being engaged in whatever we are really doing. Really engaged in it — mentally engaged in what we’re doing each day; where we’re challenging ourselves just a little bit; where we’re finding something we’re passionate about and interested in;  challenging ourselves to bring our full conscious presence to the moment; to develop awareness.

Almost all spiritual texts, teachers, and trainers are always trying to help people become more present in the moment, more accepting of the world as it is but here — the power of now stuff.

It’s like get here. Be engaged and be present with the moment.

Then with the future, it’s all about anticipating with excitement what’s to come in the future, even if the future is scary, even if you know there’s still going to be a hardship )because there will be), even if you know there’s going to be struggle, there will be tomorrow.

Finding your marks. What are you excited about for tomorrow? If you can’t find anything to be excited about tomorrow, that has nothing to do with the reality of tomorrow; it has to do with your mindset.

You’ve poisoned yourself in pools of pessimism for so long that you drowned yourself of hope, that you’ve forgotten that there is magic to life, that there is something tomorrow.

You can find something.

Even if tomorrow you’re just going to say, “You know what, tomorrow I’m going to feel better, just because I’m going to decide to be.” Be excited about that.

"Tomorrow I’m going to go do something nice for somebody. Tomorrow I’m going to get focused on this one project I’ve been waiting to do. Tomorrow I’m going to make the damn bed."

Whatever it is, find something to be excited about for tomorrow.

That’s the basics of everything we know about your emotional world and your mental world of happiness. So simple: Be accepting and at peace with the past. Be present and engaged here in the present. Be excited. Anticipate something for the future.

We’ve also learned what it takes to be happy and healthy physically.

You don’t need this one, because again this is common sense not being applied to common practice.

What’s it take to be happy and emotionally and physically healthy?

Physically, health is easy. It’s… 

·      Sleep your eight hours 

·      Drink more water 

·   Make sure you take breaks throughout the day to break your concentration, to stand up and not sit hunched over all day

·      Workout 2-4 times a week

·      Get outside and move around a little bit

·      Eat more greens

·    Avoid sugars and caffeine’s; avoid the things that make you up and then crash you down; avoid the white starchy things

·      Avoid the food groups you find you’re allergic to

We all know this, but what’s so easy?

Common sense isn’t common practice, if we’re hungry pizza!

Happiness and being physically happy is very simple and easy, you’re just not doing it consistent enough if you don’t feel physically enlivened and vibrant.

3. Another thing that people often struggle with in their happiness is their relationships.

I’m like really, people are struggling that bad?

I’m not saying relationships aren’t hard, but are you applying the common sense and common things that we know from years and years and years of relationship advice?

·      Are you present with your loved one? 

·      Are you appreciative and adoring of them? 

·      Are you giving them the benefit of the doubt? 

·  Are you realizing that it’s you in the relationship with them, fully interdependent?

They aren’t causing the problem separate of you; the two of you are in a dance together in which you have to honor and respect each other.

You have to make life fun for each other.

If your marriage is stale, it’s not because the marriage is stale; it’s because you and the other person allowed each other to go stale.

You have to fire each other up again.

4. What about spirituality? Everything we know in spirituality comes back down to the basics, to having faith, to having a sense of connection to something larger than ourselves, to allow ourselves to be amazed and awed by the mystery of the world, of this universe, of our God and our Creator, to be honoring of those very things in which we have faith towards.

None of this is magic.

It’s about looking at your life sometimes and just doing a full scale evaluation on a Sunday once in a while — to look at your life and say:

“All right, okay… Am I emotionally happy? If not, how am I looking at the past, the present and the future? Am I physically healthy? If not, how am I eating? How am I sleeping? How am I working out? Am I doing the basics here?”

If your relationships aren’t happy than the answer is:

"Okay… What is not happening in the relationship? What am I not bringing into this relationship anymore? How am I not sensing and contributing to this relationship anymore? What have I not asked for consistently enough? What is it that they specifically need that might turn it around?"

Spiritually, just feel gratitude.

Aren’t we so blessed to have these moments?

That you get to be here listening to me now, listening to ideas and concepts about improving our lives?

How blessed are we to be at this time in our lives where so fast and so easily, digitally I could be sharing some ideas and thoughts with you?

How blessed are we that we have people who are around us?

How blessed are we that we could give more love to the world just because we choose too?

How blessed are we that we can get up tomorrow, decide who we are going to be and start becoming them?

How blessed are we that we can wake up tomorrow and start designing the life we always wanted to life?

 ..... That's what Brendon said... Brendon Burchard is an American author, public speaker, online trainer on topic of motivation, high performance etc. I like to read about his saying for any topic,.that keep me focus, keep me moved on, keep me always to believe in my self, my values, my strength and our purpose for reaching success in life, reaching happiness in life, in relationship with others and also for the community. I really love being myself after all, cause there is no one like me. Are u agree? Ask your self. Heeeep.

Until we meet for chapter two. Tata :-)

  

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